Bonding has become a buzzword in the dog sector, even in areas where ‘bonding’ actually has no relevance. What is bonding anyway? Is it when the dog puts down a perfect ‚heel’ and walks next to the caretaker? Is it when it comes back immediately after a recall? Or is it much more?
For me, bonding means mutual trust, being able to rely on each other, being empathetic, showing appreciation and respecting boundaries.
The bond between me and my dog means exactly that. I want my dog to trust me, to accompany him through difficult situations and to support him. I want to give him the freedom to do what he wants as often as possible. The dogs have to adapt to our routines, plans and situations day in, day out.
The dog should feel safe and know that it can seek protection from me if it needs it. If the dog leans against me when he is insecure, I know that he is looking for the oxytocin (calming hormone) and I don't walk away from him at that moment. In such situations, I also lower my expectations and give him the time he needs to deal with the situation and come to terms with it.
I also want to understand his way of communicating, including the subtle and quick communication.
I'm also really happy when my dog lies down next to me because he senses that I'm not feeling so well and I need his closeness. Dogs feel so much more than we can even imagine. The wordless mutual ‘understanding’ and this deep harmony sometimes really let’s me pause and reflect.
Bonding doesn't just happen. It develops through the many daily moments, through playing with each other, through experiencing adventures together and through cuddling on the sofa in the evening.
Bonding needs time and trust.
